Noone who is actually in love ever expects to feel the awkwardness of a bouncing echo. What does this mean? Short for a one-sided type of situation which develops and sadly kicks in from time to time…The drifting apart syndrome as I call it. Sometimes things happen, situations we can’t control, different timezones, countries and even cultures can be included within this topic.
The point is that if we don’t spend enough time with our S/O we tend to get lost, disconnected and even feel hopeless while in the grip of this syndrome…sadly to say it’s affecting all types of relationships, and flooding them with anguish and distance. By the time they actually wake up to it, the other half has already or is almost halfways gone. Not allowing much to salvage, or restore. Faith, Confidence and Trust begin to whither and when this happens it can be or has already been ended…even without a moments notice. It drips right thru our hands like water and its gone.
Indifference can be a cause as well, it can rise like an erupting volcano once the hearts are no longer at the same level and and one of them has gone on this late habit of leaving on this trip of point of no return. Let’s face it he/she have gone stone cold, it’s turned into a rodeo where you have to lasso them back to life in your never ending love… but to only find and see they break free from your grip and know the embers of your love aren’t strong enough to keep their flames burning. It’s like a totally different person in front of you.
What’s worse no matter the efforts you make, nothing really sparks their interest. So then what to do, when your own heart is growing weary and you’re running out of time not to mention your heart is breaking into a million pieces ? You have to look deep down inside yourself and realize that you also matter, and pray that hopefully they’ll snap out of that trance and find their way back to your heart before its too late.
The sea of indifference and confusion tends to make its way into their paths and they hurt us without even noticing it from time to time. Where there once was “Good morning my angel” “Sweet dreams honey” is now (received) “✔✔” and then “✅✅” (read) yet no reply whatsoever. It ends either hardening what’s left of our hearts or breaking them til nothing is left. Infecting our love and changing our feelings to become introspective not to mention the helpless notion of failure thinking it’s our fault, yet the real culprit out there is smiling back at us while walking off with the object of our affection and we’re out of clues or ways on how to get them back.
Then what to do? you may ask yourself. Honestly you have to start loving, caring, and investing that same if not more energy, attention, and love before you lose your own self trying to fix the gap that turned up out the blue between you both. Self love isn’t wrong, as long as you’re not taking it to an extreme level. But nurturing your own self from the wounds indirectly inflicted upon you is healthier than drowning trying to fix a boat that is already sinking and bringing you down with it !!
You need to know your worth and also walk away to love yourself back to life. I know things are easier said than done. Yet you’ll recover and learn to resist the idea that you are not failing, but giving yourself the same chance and efforts you gave them. And above all, learn to walk away for the greater good. Don’t let the silent killer get away with your choice of happiness too.
Stay blessed always everyone.