Right now things have gotten too comfortable for some of us. Lately it’s either lack of time, too many responsabilities, or just the daily routines have us cornered. Whatever the situation is, it’s inexcusable and jeopardizing the relationship. He’s somewhere in his world while she’s waiting for that special text or call also vice versa it could be him who’s waiting for her. Until the most awaited event comes true…buzz buzz!! text says “I’m sorry can’t talk tonight…(a million reasons come to life and to shed light and the other S/O is stranded in a loop.
Today’s topic is about the deadliest of all relationship viruses….Routines. Now routines can become seriously contagious and dangerous, why so? Because people get used to a cycle and get sucked in it, sometimes unable to get out and break these repetitive habits. Sometimes these patterns or situations tend to take up the little time we have to spend cherishing sweet moments, yet instead they become crevices in the relationship…sometimes sadly to the point of an undeserved breakup.
Yup i said it the most feared word of all, in a relationship is the B word as in “Breakup”. It’s sad to know that nowadays many people don’t grasp the concept of thinking out of the box, they just comform themselves with whatever they get, if they get anything at all, and just sit back in a comfort zone attitude. As if that’s enough for them, it’s also enough for the S/O. Well it’s not true. People need to understand their habits can cause the other part to fall into a state of sadness asking themselves “Is this all there is?” “Why can’t it move further?” Or even worse “What is happening to us?” Sometimes priorities change, responsabilities of the now come into a new place on the list, Even thoughts of emptiness tend to surface, because no matter how much we try to address certain issues they will still continue to linger in a way, because they were not fixed, only temporarily dismissed. And these tend to cause stress, friction and pain between the couple involved. When you really want a relationship you fight for it to keep it alive like a fire that should always remain burning to survive within its warmth. Cause let’s face it when you’re in danger you struggle and strive to survive, but then after the danger is over or gone, you should stay alert in case it would ever happen again. But some survivors only fade into the past without a fight while others fight to live another day.
The same goes with a relationship, if there’s no struggle, innovations or new ways to keep it alive then there’s no way of survival or no sense of continuing beside them. Sometimes its hard to even think this way, but under such circumstances we’re left with no choices, except to simply hold back our feelings, in order to avoid our hearts breaking any further.
Yet til those very moments have become reality is when a sense of danger disturbs the peace that once protected them by bringing them closer, now only hinders and pushes them further apart. Less time to communicate the weaker their foundation becomes, and without understanding or trust in each other the walls that kept their sheltering love protected… crumbles to a nothing.