Nowadays we’re seeing so many movies, stories and life events that make us believe that love comes easy to no struggle. Or the good guy gets the girl or vice versa the girl gets the guy of her dreams. That love is like having your own personal genie to grant you three wishes and you get your wish come true. We believe it’s magical and it’s so beautiful nothing can ever mess or blurr out the vision we have of it.
We’ve been so into a fantasy about love that we’ve forgotten to see the responsibilities it incurrs, we’ve been told to live and be practical in life but we’ve forgotten all about what romance is supposed to be. It’s so sad that we haven’t learned what the balance in life is and how to keep it within our daily relationships. Once you’ve chosen/ noticed someone it clearly tells you they’ve a potential within for something more than just friendship. It at times evolves from that point but it changes with time. We get all caught up in the nice feeling and sensations it gives us, and we probably think we’re falling in love. But are we really? Or is it that we’re in love with the notion of love?
My best friend and Sis once told me and mentioned this and it made me think about it” Maybe we’re just really in love with the idea of love”.
This magical illusion that sweeps us off of our feet and makes us walk on air seeing things where there aren’t and paving the way to other possibilities as to a future with that “special one”. Yet we forget that it’s part of the idealization of this four letter word and sad to say but we fail to focus on what comes after the declaration of our heart’s dependence goes out to resonate in that other persons ears and a negative/non reciprocated response is the outcome to our wild encaged creature’s (our heart) plea.
We begin to build castles in the sky where it has no foundation, we think about adventures, smiles and sweet moments. Yet not the sad parts because we do not wish to smudge it with negative vibes. We see them as a perfect vision our never-ending happiness. We fail to see the struggle to keep a balance because we want to invade every second, every moment and space they have. But we know no boundaries until someone gets upset or feels drained. Its a tidal wave of emotions that cannot be contained nor suppressed. We encase them as a precious jewel that needs to be set aside, either hidden from the world because we’re too anxious or jealous to share it’s value or we give it such value that it actually consumes and controls us.
Leaving the other person in a state of awkwardness and finally walking/drifting away and breaking free from us. Because in their eyes and logic we’re too much to handle.
We daydream so much we’ve forgotten our own position deserves as much attention as is theirs. Yet we realize this in a very hard moment…reaching rockbottom.
We’re thinking about a beautiful picket fence home, a beautiful outing, friends, family even having one’s potentially own but we forget that all takes a job and hard work. Not to mention patience. And we’re going in circles thinking how we’d make them safe and secure. In the end we haven’t really opened up our eyes to the reality that feelings can be temporary and move out of our heart’s while a mortgage and bills do not wait to be paid. Nor does sickness wait to strip us from our happiness because nowadays “love” consists in a beautiful face and body character and values are so out of the question. By the time we know the truth we’re left with a broken carcass of a heart. Someone once told me be practical. I never understood what it meant til recently. And being practical is non other than being realistic.
I’d rather define it as being down to earth with a large dose of sarcasm. It’s keeping one’s heart in its cage and teach it to stay there til it’s seen, felt, and proved everything thru a scientific method. Feelings are fleeting nowadays. And hearts flutter one place to another as butterflies to flowers in a field. I call it the abcs for love. A for avoid being caught in that trap, B for Bounce that out the door and C for cross that off of the list. It sounds pretty harsh but it’s the truth and we need to be responsible with this whole notion called Love… Practicality can actually help us be grounded and save us from wasting time and efforts into a fleeting illusion that may cost us more than a few bucks, and a broken heart but also a broken self. Be wise dear ones, use your logic. Don’t lose your way into fairytale land cause in the end of it all there’s really no knight in shining armor to save us, it’s only ourselves to our own rescue.