How in love are you with your LDR ?

There’s a saying that is so sad but so true as well and I quote “So many people are together but not in love and so many people are in love but not together”. A very heartbreaking truth of nowadays.

Ldr Relationships are based upon love, trust, patience and above all a lot of working around the clock to make things work. Our efforts say so much about a relationship, they actually help to define where you stand in your S/O’s life and plans.

But if there’s something important as of all the above elements listed, a vital one cannot be left out or ignored, because no relationship can survive without it. I’m talking about communication, when there’s none or barely any then its simply a walk into a dead end.

No matter how many times you might say I love you to your S/O if you don’t take out the time to talk, share, vent, or even let them know you miss them its just a waste of time. Today the ones who call us their beloved take us for granted thru so many actions thinking and even believing the feelings will never leave our hearts because we genuinely love them.

But this too is a lie. They make time, go all out on social media, with friends, distractions and yet fail to make time for the one person who awaits to be united one day in that forever and always dream of closing the distance.

They have no idea how much it hurts to see our efforts ignored while others are applauded, important dates not remembered, opportunities gone to waste which leads to time lost and even disappointments growing inside our hearts faster than the speed of light.

How well do you know your S/O

Do you plan together?

Share your day no matter good or bad?

Do you take out time to enjoy something in common? (Dinner and a movie on a Skype date)

Do you find common grounds to be more time together? (Example social media apps keeping it clear to all you’re involved with each other, communication apps to keep in touch anywhere anytime.)

There are different ways to keep an ldr alive, but we need to get passed our comfort zones and remind ourselves that without constant interaction it fails to exist.

There are questions which arise, doubts that clutter and abide where once blind love and trust were strongly anchored. Leaving each day that passes empty handed and less signs of a relationship comes to show.

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Confessions of a LDR Girlfriend

Confessions of an LDR Girlfriend

Yes, thou it’s mostly us on the scene, I can’t leave out of the picture the true fact that there are guys out there fighting for another day to keep their LDR’s alive. Guys we salute you 😉 👍.
To start off I don’t want to demean or discourage anyone’s efforts, or way of handling their relationships. No offense intended on my part, but I do wish to open up and speak in the name of many struggling with the issues I’ll address today.
Nowadays in LDR’s we tend to pour out our hearts in actions, words, efforts and as in many cases we even give away a part of our lives we’ll never get back, and that part is our time so willingly and lovingly invested.

Not that we complain about it, we struggle, adjust and overcome it because of different time zones, circumstances and even cultural differences. Yet something comes to my heart and it troubles me at all times. I for example am a very emotional person, I feel everything I do has to be weighed before set out there for the world to see but that’s just me, I know for a fact each one of us handles this special kind of relationship as a delicate one because not everyone is made to withstand distance, or the type of relationship many will question.
My heartfelt attention is the tremendous weight of efforts made on our part that go unnoticed by our sentimental partners, or as we call them S/O.
– We plan our whole lives around our relationships so we can be available to call, text and video keeping in mind time differences and sometimes even sacrificing our social lives while theirs remain intact.
– Our endless tries as in posting, writing, idealizing, recreating and as I mentioned before giving so much life to our relationships that we end up drained in the midst of it all and without motivation as well, because of their lack of empathy, and contribution towards us.
– We get inspired with a song, a thought, a feeling, and we wish to share that with our beloved but many times we barely get a response or any reaction from their part.

Instead of getting our S/O attention, we end up showered and encouraged by others who know us well, and even dare to try out as suitors for our hearts. But do we give in to those suitors? Of course not!! We’re only into the object of our affection. If not, we’d be seeking the attention offered when others seem to know what we like, what we don’t, when something goes wrong and can tune in to our emotions.

Not many understand our devotion surpasses all of these things. In fact we have our ups and downs as those in a normal standard relationship, except we guard it with a not so invisible shield of undivided attention. We continue to hope our feelings are felt, understood, delivered and reciprocated.
We can even compare it to an app used on a daily basis: we go to it, we text, we send, all in hopes it will be seen and replied to. Still seconds become hours in our hearts and when not understood we become wounded, and in some cases we hold our feelings back in avoidance of “confrontation mode” as I call it.

Our hearts are visited as a place of invisible encounters and rare meetings. Because we then begin to build a force field that repels any advances intending to break it down…but reality is we’re only trying to salvage any remains left of our soul’s feelings.

The next series of posts are titled Confessions of a LDR gf/bf for a reason. Their purpose is to say or “confess” what every person in a ldr wished his s/o knew, but we are too afraid to point it out directly to our partners. We don’t want them to feel like they are failing. What we want to do is to remind them (and ourselves in the process) that we can build better, stronger relationships.

Yes, thou it’s mostly us on the scene, I can’t leave out of the picture the true fact that there are guys out there fighting for another day to keep their LDR’s alive. Guys we salute you 😉 👍. To start off I don’t want to demean or discourage anyone’s efforts, or way of handling their relationships. No offense intended on my part, but I do wish to open up and speak in the name of many struggling with the issues I’ll address today. Nowadays in LDR’s we tend to pour out our hearts in actions, words, efforts and as in many cases we even give away a part of our lives we’ll never get back, and that part is our time so willingly and lovingly invested.

Not that we complain about it, we struggle, adjust and overcome it because of different time zones, circumstances and even cultural differences. Yet something comes to my heart and it troubles me at all times. I for example am a very emotional person, I feel everything I do has to be weighed before set out there for the world to see but that’s just me, I know for a fact each one of us handles this special kind of relationship as a delicate one because not everyone is made to withstand distance, or the type of relationship many will question.

My heartfelt attention is the tremendous weight of efforts made on our part that go unnoticed by our sentimental partners, or as we call them S/O. – We plan our whole lives around our relationships so we can be available to call, text and video keeping in mind time differences and sometimes even sacrificing our social lives while theirs remain intact. – Our endless tries as in posting, writing, idealizing, recreating and as I mentioned before giving so much life to our relationships that we end up drained in the midst of it all and without motivation as well, because of their lack of empathy, and contribution towards us. – We get inspired with a song, a thought, a feeling, and we wish to share that with our beloved but many times we barely get a response or any reaction from their part. Instead of getting our S/O attention, we end up showered and encouraged by others who know us well, and even dare to try out as suitors for our hearts. But do we give in to those suitors? Of course not!! We’re only into the object of our affection. If not, we’d be seeking the attention offered when others seem to know what we like, what we don’t, when something goes wrong and can tune in to our emotions. Not many understand our devotion surpasses all of these things.

In fact we have our ups and downs as those in a normal standard relationship, except we guard it with a not so invisible shield of undivided attention. We continue to hope our feelings are felt, understood, delivered and reciprocated. We can even compare it to an app used on a daily basis: we go to it, we text, we send, all in hopes it will be seen and replied to.

Still seconds become hours in our hearts and when not understood we become wounded, and in some cases we hold our feelings back in avoidance of “confrontation mode” as I call it. Our hearts are visited as a place of invisible encounters and rare meetings. Because we then begin to build a force field that repels any advances intending to break it down…but reality is we’re only trying to salvage any remains left of our soul’s feelings.

I’d like to thank my loving Sis Gibran Cruz, who co-wrote this with me and has been my inspiration and motivator at all times, Sis this couldn’t have happened without you, I love you💗. She herself is a very known blogger here, check her blog out and follow her “My So Called Life” @Gibran Cruz